Blending families - Successfully. From the perspective of a child.

Updated: Nov 20, 2020

Blended families, yes you read me right... blended families are going to be my first topic of choice to start conversations. Believe it or not, this is our societies new normal. And for so many reasons, through various circumstances and situations we know so many amazing people who are in a blended family. Perhaps you're in one yourself.


At one point in life I was a young widow with two little girls. Together we walked through tragedy, healing, great joys, and later we walked through the process of blending two families and making them one. I can't say that it was easy by any means. Nor was it a pleasurable experience. However, we did learn lots about the importance of communication, making time to create healthy relationships, and had to sacrifice our own wants for the sake of someone else. I wish I could tell you that it all ran together smoothly. But it didn't. Yet we worked at it everyday with tears, frustration, fear, peace, excitement, and new levels of respect.


If you're in a blended family, or perhaps are about to marry into one, here are some questions to ask yourself. 1. Have I considered my children in this marriage? 2. Do I know how my children feel about their stepparent? 3. What are some ways that I can reach out to build a relationship with my stepchildren/children? There are of course many other questions that we could consider. But hopefully these 3 will be a good starting point to get the ball rolling towards building a successful blended family.


You don't have to walk this journey alone. What are some of your questions or lessons learned while being in a blended family? All experiences are welcomed and encouraged, as blended families take all different shapes and sizes.


Blended families - Chis-Anderson style.


I had the wonderful privilege to host my daughter for my very first video. My daughter Neah shared her experience growing up in a blended family after the loss of her biological father and what it is like to grieve while accepting the hopes for a happy future. Listen in as this young lady expresses her knowledge of what Beauty for Ashes can look like.


Included in this video were several resources that we personally used during our process of blending our family. These books are excellent tools to help understand what it is like to be in a Step Parent situation, and learning how to be relatable to your spouse and what they could potentially be going through. These books are also great guides if you're wanting to conduct a in home Small Group to go through the process together. This was an excellent tool. I can't express that enough.


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